My dad came from a broken home, which somehow ruined his future, he couldn’t further in his education which is why he took it upon himself that all six of his children must be educated. Its not been easy for them, they have deprived themselves of social life and many other things. Presently, am the third born but the first graduate which means am the only one working.
I and my mum are very close, like I can’t even take any decision without consulting her first.
Straight to the point, I started working last year and have been helping out in my own little way, earlier this year I bought a 32inch TV close to 65,000, I gave my brother 40,000 to buy a gadget he needed to learn a skill, mum needed an appliance worth 250,000 and I paid a 35% down payment which she was supposed to be paying the rest installmentally.
Now this morning she called me and said I would help her pay another 30% then she will pay the rest. We were joking just last week, when a message entered my phone and jokingly she said I received an alert of 20million, that I would give her and my dad half of it, my older siblings #2million each while I take the remaining.
Note, I am not a stingy person at all, in fact now am beginning to think she manipulates me because I have a soft spot for her. My older brother once said he won’t disclose to her how much he earns when he starts working, but am the opposite, am always transparent towards her.
Recently I told her I want to start an online store, so I can have extra money because my salary doesn’t even last me till the end of the month. So telling her this, why should she say I should help her in paying another 30%. She even told me she knows this month salary is booked, cos I promised to give my sister part of her house rent in school, buy drugs for my grandma, so she said I can help her with my November salary.
She even helps me plan it, I don’t want this year to go by without doing anything, if I continue like this, then I won’t have any savings, my accounts are all red. I could remember when I collected my second salary, I gave half to her so we can buy foodstuff, dad refused and said she should return it that am just starting out so they shouldn’t disturb me. Throughout my NYSC I didn’t save a dime yet I was collecting state allowance also, I don’t spend money lavishly, I know how to manage myself.
All the money I kept sending home. I know its my duty but should our parents hold us Ransome because of all they have done for us cos that’s exactly what she meant.
I dunno if am the only one experiencing it, now I know come November I will give her the money which means the plan of starting my own biz would have to wait till next year. I planned on enrolling for my masters degree this year but had to postpone it because I wanted to help out.
Is this how I will continue or what can I do concerning the situation. I am sorry for the long epistle but it was needed.