You’ve been dating him for several months now, or even years. And he just does not seem interested in making things official. You’re happy together. Everything is perfect. What could be holding him back?
There are various things that could factor into why he has not proposed. But the most common ones can be broken down into these four main reasons.
He is holding out for something better
It may look like you’re happy together but sometimes, his hesitation can come from him feeling like he could find someone better. He may love you, but committing to marriage is a very big deal. So, he’s probably thinking he can do better. Perhaps he has a fantasy in his head for what his future wife will look like, or maybe there’s an ex he’s hoping to get back with. Whatever the case, he isn’t sure because he’s afraid that if he commits, someone ‘better’ can come along and he will regret his choice.
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Marriage is not a priority
Another reason why he has not proposed could be that he really does not see marriage as a big deal. You’re counting the minutes until you tie the knot but he’s not really thinking about it. He simply doesn’t feel like he needs to get married to you. He may get to it eventually. But right now, it’s not on his to-do list.
He has certain goals
Your guy may be hoping to be more financially stable or perhaps, planning to move out of the country before he can consider settling down. Some people are determined to achieve certain goals before tying the knots. This may be why he has not proposed.
He does not love you
This can be harsh to accept. But a man can care for you, spend time with you and simply not love you enough to commit the rest of his life to you.
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Whichever the reason may be, if you think his dawdling on this marriage thing and you can’t wait any longer, it’s time to have a talk with him. If he cannot give you reasons you’re comfortable with, don’t wait forever.
Would you like to take the reins? Here’s how you can propose to your guy without looking desperate.
Source: Lifestyle.NG