A lot changes when you get married. Not only are you now building a life with someone else, but you’re also learning so much about yourself. You’re raising kids, making plans and setting goals with someone you’ve chosen to be your partner for life. That requires some adjustment and growth.
For growth to happen, there are certain marriage lessons you need to learn. They will help you discover who you are and what you want, both in the marriage and outside of it. Here are four of them:
1. Money is important
There’s a reason why experts advise that couples should have an exhaustive conversation about money before tying the knot. While you can both get by with separate finances that are independent of one another when you were dating, things may be different in a marriage. It’s not about not having enough, but mostly what to do with the money. When should you save? When should you splurge? You may both have different answers to these questions and more.
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2. You will have to ask for what you need
Your partner isn’t a mind reader and if you want things to go as smoothly as possible, you’ll have to learn exactly how to ask for what you need. Don’t just expect things to occur to him. If you need help, ask for it. There is no time for games or coyness when you both have responsibilities and obligations to yourselves and your marital home.
3. Those issues you had beforehand are not going anywhere
Those little things that annoy you about your partner will become even more pronounced now that you’re husband and wife. So be honest with yourself about what you can and cannot handle.
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4. Keeping each other’s attention is crucial
The dating stage is all about impressing each other and trying to get your partner’s attention. But now that you’re married, this cannot take a back seat. You have to continue to show each other the same respect, admiration, and attention you did before getting married. This is one of the important marriage lessons to know.
For more about adjusting to marital life, here are five common problems couples experience within the first year of marriage.
Source: Lifestyle.NG