Dealing with a partner who is emotionally unstable can be tough. It feels like you’re constantly on a roller coaster ride of highs and lows. One minute, things are good and the next, you’re standing on shaky ground.
Of course, this can quickly take its toll on you, and you may find yourself wondering if you should end things with your emotionally unstable partner. But breaking up with him can be a task on its own.
It’s possible that he will tell you he needs you desperately and that he cannot do without you and he may even threaten to hurt himself. It can get so bad that you start to feel guilty as if breaking up with him means you’re leaving someone who needs your help. But this isn’t true.
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You cannot help him
Women are more nurturing by nature and we tend to think we can and should help everyone. This is the same for a woman who has an emotionally unstable partner. You love him so much that you believe that if he knows he’s loved, he can pull through. But the truth is, you can’t love someone enough to fix them. Instead of feeling bad and hanging in there with someone who’s so unpredictable, it’s more helpful to give him information about where he can get help and then say your goodbyes. In fact, in many cases, staying will only enable him and make matters worse.
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He will take you down with him
You have to think of your own sanity when you have an emotionally unstable partner. Sometimes, people like these tend to be abusive (emotionally and physically), overly insecure, and they may even shut you out sometimes. These may sound like his problems but they affect you too. Unstable people tend to take their partners down with them and before you know it, you’re walking on eggshells around him, you feel drained and may even deal with depression. You should not sacrifice your own mental health for someone else.
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You can help him without being in a relationship with him
The best thing you can do for someone who has issues like these is to point them in the direction of someone that can help. However, this does not mean you have to disappear from their life. If you’re feeling guilty about leaving him, you can still break off the relationship and be there for him when you can. Of course, you should draw boundaries in situations like this to ensure things don’t go further than a platonic friendship. This way, you protect your heart but you don’t feel cold-hearted for ‘abandoning’ him.
To keep from getting into this situation in the first place, consider these signs of an emotionally unavailable man.
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Source: Lifestyle.NG