Many people are just nice by nature. People like that find it difficult to say no, sometimes even to their own detriment. They are very accommodating and will always be there for others.
Being nice isn’t a bad thing. In fact, the world needs more genuinely kind people. However, there will always be leeches who will take advantage of your sweet nature. In fact, you may even be dating that leech. And these signs show that you probably are.
1. It’s always about him
You start venting about a bad work day and he interrupts to talk about himself. This may be forgivable if it happens once in a while. However, if you’re in a relationship where all you do is talk about him then you’re being taken advantage of. You want to be there for him because that’s just who you are, but he has an obligation to be there for you ta oo.
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2. The favours are one-way
You see no problems with running small errands for him or helping him compose that work email. That’s great. But this becomes a problem if one, you don’t ask for favours because you’re trying to be the nice girl, or two, when you ask, he says no. You may think that the favours you’re doing for him are no big deal but no matter how small, they should be reciprocated.
3. You have to fish for compliments
You’re so quick to reassure your man and boost his confidence. He feeds off of your words of appreciation and admiration. In fact, you see him stand up a little taller when you offer a compliment. That’s fantastic. But if you’re not getting this same reassurance from him, then yes, he’s taking advantage of you.
4. His version of being nice feels like a transaction
While you’ve done a lot for him without asking for anything in return, when he goes out of his way for you, he demands something. It could be as simple as expecting a bucket load of gratitude. But whatever the case, you feel like you have to ‘pay’ when he’s being nice to you.
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5. You tried to point this out and it didn’t go well
If any of the above sounds like your relationship, try pointing it out to your partner. If you receive anything but gratitude and acknowledgment, then yup, it’s been confirmed, you’re being taken advantage of.
Some people take their partner’s good-nature for granted. They either don’t notice it or think that’s what you’re there for. Being mean isn’t the solution to this, though. All you need to do is draw your boundaries. If you’re not getting as much as you give, then stop giving. You can still be nice, but to people who truly deserve it.
Are you being gaslighted in your relationship? Watch out for these signs.
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Source: Lifestyle.NG