The phrase, “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach” has been peddled so much that women are more focused on being the best cook so they can be seen as “wife material.”
Sure, everyone loves good food. But when you’re talking about finding a life partner, how important are your kitchen skills in the grand scheme of things? Can you cook your way into his heart? Well, no. And we’ll tell you why.
The idea itself is flawed
This whole belief is based on the idea that all men want the same thing. But human beings are more complicated than that. If food works for one person, it won’t work for another. So making it your life’s mission to gather and learn the recipes for all the delicacies in the world may end of being a complete waste of your time. Especially if you marry someone that isn’t really into food. In fact, men should feel insulted that they have been made to sound so simple-minded and predictable.
(Photo: Cooking Channel)
If food is how you got him, food is how you’ll lose him
No matter how much time and energy you invest in cooking the best meals, there’s still going to be somebody out there better than you. So if his whole happiness and his perspective of you is based on what you put in his plate, you’re .ing a pretty risky game. Sure, your Egusi with nine lives may sway his attention to you, but when some other woman offers Egusi with a Ph.D., you’ll very likely lose him. The point is, you shouldn’t even want a man whose happiness is achieved by something so flimsy.
Food will not solve all your problems
There’s more to a marriage than filling your belly. Good food is great, sure, but if that’s all you have to offer, you’ll find yourself ill-equipped to deal with other challenges. In fact, when you take a look at the big picture, who prepares the meal and who eats it will only be a tiny part of your marital story.
(Photo: Nigerian Food Recipes)
Our point…
First, stop thinking there’s only one way to every man’s heart. Then stop trying so hard to worm your way into his heart by any means necessary that you leave yours unprotected. What is the way to your own heart? What do you need in a partner? These questions are way more important than focusing on one aspect which basically anyone with a YouTube access can achieve. There’s more than one way to a man’s heart just as there’s more than one way to yours. And in many cases, they have nothing to do with food.
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Source: Lifestyle.NG