If you live in Nigeria, chances are you know someone who has japa’d (relocated abroad) or is actively planning to. But not everyone announces their exit plans—some keep it under wraps until they’re safely in Canada, the UK, or a Caribbean island.
One day, you’re chatting as usual, and the next, they post a Heathrow Airport picture with the caption, “New beginnings.” Just like that, they’re gone without a goodbye.
Why do people do this? Some fear village people, visa complications, or unnecessary drama. Others just want a smooth exit without distractions.
But if you’re observant, there are clear signs your friend is about to japa—without telling you. Watch out for these five clues.
1. They Start Ghosting You
Your once chatty friend now takes forever to reply to messages, dodges calls, and keeps saying, “I’ve been really busy o.”
The truth? They’re spending all their time on visa applications, job searches, and possibly selling off belongings on Jiji. If someone who was always present suddenly becomes distant, they might be planning a silent exit.
2. They Start Selling Off Their Belongings
One day, they post on WhatsApp, “Who needs a slightly used microwave? 25k only.” Next, it’s their TV, blender, or even their car at ridiculously cheap prices.
When you ask why, they give vague answers like, “I just need to declutter.” But let’s be real—who randomly declutters their whole life? If they’re selling off assets without replacing them, they’re likely liquidating before their big move.
3. They Suddenly Become Curious About Your Future Plans
Out of nowhere, they start asking deep questions:
👉 “If you had the chance to leave Nigeria today, would you take it?”
👉 “Would you ever consider moving to Canada?”
👉 “What would you do if I suddenly left the country?”
At first, it seems like harmless talk, but they’re actually testing the waters to see if you’ll notice their unusual behavior—or if you’re planning to japa too.
4. They Can’t Stop Talking About Life Abroad
If your friend suddenly turns into a relocation expert, constantly praising life in the UK, Canada, or Australia, they’re probably getting ready to leave.
They’ll casually drop statements like:
“My cousin in Canada says life is just so peaceful there.”
“Nigeria is finished. If you get the chance to leave, don’t think twice.”
At this point, they’re mentally checked out of Nigeria. They may act casual, but deep down, their visa is likely secured, and they’re counting down the days.
5. They Avoid Long-Term Plans in Nigeria
They used to talk about renting a new apartment, starting a business, or getting a new job—but suddenly, they go quiet on those plans.
You invite them to a wedding in December, and they respond with, “Let’s see how things go.”
You suggest a business idea, and they say, “I’m not sure right now.”
These are code words for “I won’t be around much longer.” They’re avoiding commitments because they know they’re leaving soon.
Final Confirmation? The Airport Picture
Even if you miss all the signs, you’ll eventually see it—the classic “New beginnings” caption under an airport photo.
At that moment, you realize your friend had one foot out the door the entire time.