A blog reader sent in this message and needs your candid advice:
“I was aware she has a baby before we met but still continued the relationship because the baby is with the father. She told me it was a mistake and the guy’s family didn’t support their relationship. So they went their different ways while the guy kept their daughter.
When we started, I found out she was humble, hardworking and she was everything I ever wanted in a woman so we got married 4 years ago and have a 3-year-old son and 2 beautiful twins (just 3 months old).
Now the problem started when she went to church and her ex brought her 7-year-old daughter unannounced. He told her that he was now married and couldn’t continue taking care of the girl.
She called me from church to inform me and I, immediately, told her not to bring a child that’s not mine into our home. She then took the baby to her mom and came home to me and our kids. She has been begging me since to allow the baby in our home because her mother gave her 3 days to come and take her baby from her.
Please, I need your advice on this. Does it make sense that I take care of the baby while the father is out there enjoying his life?”