Marriage sure has its challenging times and it may feel like taking a space, even under the same roof is a way to solve your problems. That’s why some couples decide it’s no big deal to stay in different bedrooms.
Is it a good idea to have separate bedrooms in a marriage? Not really, as this ends up pulling you further apart in the following ways.
Intimacy can take a hit
The logistics of whose room to go to to make love or one person having to get out of their bed and go to their room afterward can affect the frequency of physical intimacy in your marriage. Before long, one or both partners may start to feel like sex is just not worth the effort.
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Relationship bonding
Having separate bedrooms in a marriage can affect how close you are as a couple. Most couples usually have a lot going during the daytime like work, caring for kids, etc. But the evening time is when they catch up on their day and reconnect. Spending most of the night apart may put a damper on that.
Resolving conflicts
Many couples choose to stay in separate bedrooms when things are tense in the relationship. However, this hardly ever solves anything. You may end up missing your partner so much that you return to the bedroom without talking about your problems. Or you may sleep separately, hoping that one partner will come and apologize to the other, each of you nursing your pride. Relationship problems don’t just disappear with space. You have to come together to figure out your next step.
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You may get used to it
You may find yourselves enjoying separate bedrooms in a marriage. But that leaves the possibility of you turning into roommates because it’s more convenient than actually fighting to build your relationship.
Is there friction between you and your partner? You could have something to do with it. Find out the signs here.
Source: Lifestyle.NG