Giving Your Man Money Is Not The Selfless Act You Think It IsZUMI

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It’s what you think a good girlfriend should do, right? She offers her man financial help whenever he’s in a bind. What could be wrong with that?

For the most part, nothing. But only if this ‘gift’ does not in anyway come with expectations. However, the simple fact is when it comes to giving your man money, or anyone else for that matter, there will be expectations. You will almost always want something in return.

It’s your sneaky way of buying his love

Have you witnessed a scenario where a woman has been cheated on by her partner, or he breaks her heart in whatever way and you hear her emphatically say something like, “after I gave you so and so Naira when you were in need!” It’s supposed to garner sympathy. But on a closer look, one has to wonder, were you giving that money in the first place to buy his loyalty and love? The fact is, giving a man money will not make him love you in a way he’s incapable of. Sadly, deep down, this is why some women make this financial sacrifice. And when things don’t work out, their mind immediately goes to how much they spent “on him.”

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You see it as an investment

Apart from feeling like your partner owes you something when you give him money, you may also see this as an investment. Take a scenario where a woman helps to sponsor a guy through school. A part of her may be hoping that when he does graduate, he will get some big-time job and the money will return tenfold. If this is a signed business contract between you and your partner, then, that’s fine. But don’t invest that much, nurse this secret hope and then feel cheated when he walks away after graduation, or perhaps he does not get that big job you hoped.

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There are many ways to help your man get back on his financial feet without giving him money. You can offer support, encouragement, or help him draw up a plan. If you do insist on giving your man money, however, you must honestly answer yes to this question: “will I give this money to any random person on the streets with absolutely no expectations?” If you can’t, then there are some strings attached to it and, it’s really not a selfless act.

To get your marital life off on the right foot, here are some money questions to ask your partner before the wedding.



Source: Lifestyle.NG