No relationship is perfect. And even though Barack and Michelle Obama’s marriage is seen as #goals, the former United States First Lady is now talking about the hard work it takes to make their relationship work.
While speaking to Robin Roberts of ABC’s Good Morning America, Michelle Obama shared a few things that will be released in her upcoming memoir, Becoming.
The former POTUS and FLOTUS have always seemed to be a match made in heaven. However, like everyone else, they face their struggles, and Mrs. Obama isn’t shy when it comes to revealing the hard parts.
On finding happiness within herself
Michelle Obama said one of the first lessons she learned about herself during the early stages of her marriage was that she was more in control than she thought. She realized the importance of self-care and asking for help whenever she needed.
“What I learned about myself was that my happiness was up to me. I started working out more and asking for help, not just from him but from other people. I stopped feeling guilty. It’s important for me to take care of myself. That’s not on Barack.”
On having a successful marriage
Barack and Michelle Obama apparently needed some help in navigating their marital waters as well. They quickly discovered that marriage counseling is incredibly helpful for any couple trying to build a strong foundation. She said:
“For those young people out there who think that marriage is supposed to be easy. Marriage counseling for us was one of those ways where we learned how to talk out our differences.”
She went on to talk about how couples often expect things to go smoothly simply because they are in love. And when challenges come up, they start to worry that they are broken. But Michelle assured that it takes hard work to keep a relationship going regardless of how much you love each other.
“We work on our marriage. And we get help with our marriage when we need it.”
Her fertility struggles
In addition to talking about her marriage, Michelle Obama also opened up about one major hurdle she and Barack had to cross as a couple. She shared that they had a hard time getting pregnant and at one point, she even suffered a miscarriage.
Mrs. Obama said she felt “broken” after the loss of her pregnancy and because the issue was not talked about enough at the time, she felt alone.
The couple went on to enlist the help of a fertility doctor and used IVF to conceive their daughters Malia and Sasha. Michelle Obama urged women to be more open about what’s going on with their bodies and explained that this is the only way we can “heal from within.”
Watch as the mother of two shares her experience in the video below.
For more nuggets from the former US First Lady, check out these success tips she shared as well.