When it comes to dating, sometimes, we women sabotage ourselves and drive away these men.
You could be dating a potential future husband but suddenly, he just loses interest. Not because you cannot cook well or give him the love that he needs, but because of small habits here and there. Many ladies fail to grasp the simple concept that a man should be left alone sometimes to enjoy his freedom; that and more are some of the things that may be driving men away. Are you guilty of these things? Then you need to check yourself:
1. Extreme jealousy.
Listen, your man can have friends of the opposite sex, matter of fact, he probably had friends before he met you. Jealousy, especially when there’s no need to be jealous is a complete turn off and speaks volumes as to how insecure you are.
2. Constant nagging.
The last thing anyone wants after a long day of work is a nagging wife or girlfriend. Let your man rest, let him relax. Nagging him over petty things is only going to make him not look forward to coming home and that’s how these men end up drinking with their friends instead of coming home to you. That’s cause you can’t keep your mouth shut. If you really have to talk about something that’s bothering you, do it in a mature way. Find the right time to approach him and have that talk then find amicable solutions.
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3. Checking his phone without his permission.
The question is, are you ready for the answers you’re looking for in his phone? How will you deal with it if you find things you were not expecting? If your man is not giving you any reason for you to believe that he’s cheating or talking to other women, why would you snoop through his phone? This is a terrible habit that needs to die.
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4. Pressuring him for marriage.
A man will propose to you and introduce you to his parents when he is ready. Pressuring him will only drive him away. Of course, you also have to ensure that you’re not dating a commitment phobe but, if you have only been dating for one year and you’re demanding for a ring and babies, you might want to take things a bit slow.
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5. Ultimatums.
“If you don’t give me a ring by January 2019 I’m leaving you”. Sis, do you actually wanna get married so bad? While ultimatums work sometimes, more often than not, they drive the men away. It doesn’t make sense to get married simply because you’ve been pressured into it. Marriage should feel right, at the right time, with the right person. If you have to force it, it probably is not meant to be.
6. Disrespect.
Sometime back I was out and a friend introduced her man to me and went on to rant about how he never makes an effort to look good, mind you, the guy was there, smiling awkwardly and you could tell he was a little bit embarrassed. The worst thing you can do is disrespect your man in front of your friends or his friends or make fun of him.
7. Acting like his mother instead of his girlfriend.
Does he have to answer you as to why he was late or where he was? Some women forget their roles as girlfriends and wives and start treating their men like a child. He’s a grown ass man and can handle his own. Don’t do everything for him. Let him be the man when he needs to be the man.
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8. Failure to give him space.
Let the man have his own freedom. Let him hang with his boys every now and then. You both don’t have to do every single thing together. You need to have a life of your own too so that your whole life is not revolving around your man so much that even when he leaves the house on Saturday for a few beers it’s a problem. What if tables turned and he didn’t want you to have your own free time to go to the salon, hang with the girls and all that jazz? You wouldn’t like it right?
9. Gold digging.
Men hate to feel used. Even if you’re with him for his money, don’t make it too obvious. Or at least, make your intentions clear, in the sense, it’s an exchange kind of relationship where he finances your life in return for some loving. Otherwise, if all you do is call him when you need money or only use him for his money, sooner or later, he will want to be appreciated and there will be someone else who will be after love, instead of money.
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Source: Lifestyle.NG